“Judge not, less you be judged” - Bible
Now we got that outta the way here's my take. LOL J/K I am actually more sympathetic to this issue then most may think. As most of the world may already know, Bishop Eddie Long was accused of mis-using his pastoral position and having contact of a sexual nature with 4 particular young men. Although it did not go to trail and Long denied the accusations, a settlement of $25 Million dollars was reached yesterday. As you may know by now, if you have been reading my blogs, I don't really enjoy speaking on the person directly, I try to look at the situation in a way that we can all get a lesson out of it. You know what I mean?
So let's talk about the closet. We've heard the saying, “What's in the closet will always come to light” and “Your skeletons will one day come out of the closet”... and so on. But we never really talk about the closet itself. This dark, usually very small, tight, uncomfortable, unforgiving box that holds what others and we deem as our most shameful secrets is in and of itself the shame that we try so desperately to hide. Shame (the closet), tells us daily that we don't deserve to be loved, that we will never be good enough, that we are forever “doomed”, that we are just so far off the mark. This shame keeps us from our true self, keeps us from our loved ones, and keeps us locked in the closet.
The closet to me is like a cult. It is usually a group of people who are so miserable within themselves that they will basically believe anything as long as it takes the pressure off the real issue. Instead of taking the time out to massage the soul that is You, they choose to drink the koolaid. So in the cases of these officials (Wiener, Schwartzneggar), pastors, and persons in leadership who are constantly stepping all over the principles and morals of marriage and these standards they “hold in such great esteem”, they rather force us in the closet with them instead of coming out and helping others come out as well.
It is not about your sexual preference or whether you cheat on your taxes, your diet, or you're a closet-eater... this is about LOVING YOU. Whoever you are, whatever your desires, whatever your issues you deserve to be loved and that love must first start with you. It has been said and is true, “People will treat you according to how you treat yourself.” Now I'm not saying tell all your business, I'm a private person, however I am saying deal with who you are... baggage and all... then embrace yourself. Because whatever you want to change you can, but Honey you can't do it while you're in the closet – there's simply not enough room.
It's Tuesday “and I'm feeling good.” - Jennifer Hudson
LYL LYS! MUAH