Tuesday, June 14, 2011

THE CLOSET!

“Judge not, less you be judged” - Bible

Now we got that outta the way here's my take. LOL J/K I am actually more sympathetic to this issue then most may think. As most of the world may already know, Bishop Eddie Long was accused of mis-using his pastoral position and having contact of a sexual nature with 4 particular young men. Although it did not go to trail and Long denied the accusations, a settlement of $25 Million dollars was reached yesterday. As you may know by now, if you have been reading my blogs, I don't really enjoy speaking on the person directly, I try to look at the situation in a way that we can all get a lesson out of it. You know what I mean?

So let's talk about the closet. We've heard the saying, “What's in the closet will always come to light” and “Your skeletons will one day come out of the closet”... and so on. But we never really talk about the closet itself. This dark, usually very small, tight, uncomfortable, unforgiving box that holds what others and we deem as our most shameful secrets is in and of itself the shame that we try so desperately to hide. Shame (the closet), tells us daily that we don't deserve to be loved, that we will never be good enough, that we are forever “doomed”, that we are just so far off the mark. This shame keeps us from our true self, keeps us from our loved ones, and keeps us locked in the closet.

The closet to me is like a cult. It is usually a group of people who are so miserable within themselves that they will basically believe anything as long as it takes the pressure off the real issue. Instead of taking the time out to massage the soul that is You, they choose to drink the koolaid. So in the cases of these officials (Wiener, Schwartzneggar), pastors, and persons in leadership who are constantly stepping all over the principles and morals of marriage and these standards they “hold in such great esteem”, they rather force us in the closet with them instead of coming out and helping others come out as well.

It is not about your sexual preference or whether you cheat on your taxes, your diet, or you're a closet-eater... this is about LOVING YOU. Whoever you are, whatever your desires, whatever your issues you deserve to be loved and that love must first start with you. It has been said and is true, “People will treat you according to how you treat yourself.” Now I'm not saying tell all your business, I'm a private person, however I am saying deal with who you are... baggage and all... then embrace yourself. Because whatever you want to change you can, but Honey you can't do it while you're in the closet – there's simply not enough room.

It's Tuesday “and I'm feeling good.” - Jennifer Hudson

LYL LYS! MUAH

14 comments:

  1. Well said Megan.

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  2. Very well said!!!

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  3. Thank you, thank you, thank you! :0)

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  4. LYL, LYS.... you are always on target!

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  5. You rock, sweet lady! I want to see you as Herman Cain's running mate!

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  6. @Badger thank you Love! @Anonymous... uh ohhhh LOL MUAH

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  7. Proves that power can tear anything down....

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  8. I Love this post, but you make it seem easier said than done. If it was that easy for one to deal with their problems than the world would truly be a better place. Most people who have this closet of shame as you called it has been dealing with the issue for quiet some time now. I will repost believing that more and more people need to read this.

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  9. Totally agree with you, people like to act like they don't have baggage it is only the "other" person, we all need to recognize that part of being human is to have baggage. We just have to deal with it.

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  10. Megan this is so true and so well said!!! Everyone should read this!! Thank you for expressing such a wonderful voice!!!

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  11. Funny...I have so much baggage in my closet of shame...but thanks to God, I know that I am human and I'm gonna have that closet until he frees me from it and brings me to his side! I just keep putting things in the closet knowing that God knows what is in there and loves me anyway! It's impossible as a flawed human to not have a closet...but it's how you deal with that closet that makes you a strong person.

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  12. "I Love this post, but you make it seem easier said than done. If it was that easy for one to deal with their problems than the world would truly be a better place."

    The hardest part is the DESIRE to work things out. We're never alone to deal with our issues, but we have to decide whether we want to confront them or not. I can tell you by experience that you can't get rid of your demons by yourself (no matter how hard you perform and fool others, you know what the deal is), people can deny the Most High all they want (I've been one of them) but at some point in life they're going to have to put pride aside, seek Truth and go to Him if they DESIRE complete freedom. The moment you sincerely DESIRE to work things out, you'll turn to the only one who can save you from yourself, and I bet you're gonna get a visitation....

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