Monday, February 28, 2011

Give Yourself a Break!

Good Monday Morning!
Tell me what ya’ll think about this; I’m sensitive about “beating myself up” and others who do the same (to themselves). I believe it stems from not feeling the “approval” I wanted in my younger years. Let me explain. We all know that we are our worst critic, and that critique in our heads can become debilitating if not carefully watched. It is one thing to call forth the best in us, yet another to be down-right mean when we haven’t accomplished what we think we should have in the time-frame we set for that accomplishment. For example, some want to become kinder people. In the midst of them trying to become just that, they slip up and say something really rude to a co-worker…then say something even worse to themselves because “OMG, I’m trying to be a nicer person!”

It seems to me the more we beat ourselves up for not being who or what we “ought” to be, the more we’re exactly what we don’t want to be. SO STOP IT! Ok, so you want to loose weight, you’ve made the decision to do so but haven’t gone to the gym yet. Yes, that’s not the goal, but the more you make yourself feel bad about not going to the gym, the closer you get to the donuts and further away from the dumb-bells.

Give yourself a break! Geesh! Aunty O says, “When you know better you do better” I say, “When you feel better, you’ll do more.” Today is a new day, so start afresh… yesterday is gone, but by-golly today has “only just begun.”

Last week was great! (heck we made it through didn’t we?) So it gets greater later, right? Well this week is later! :0) DO IT BIG!!!!!!


Friday, February 25, 2011

Learn not Relearn.

How is it possible that even though you know something, you still end up doing the other thing or not doing what you know? LOL I just confused myself. Ok let me explain. I talk about lessons often mainly because I try to make every experience a learned lessons… that way I don’t have to come back to it again! However, it doesn’t always work that way.

As I was thinking about this in particular, I realized that lessons are something you didn’t know before… something new that you are learning, therefore trying to recognize the lesson rather the see the lesson (as it is revealed) are two very important and different things.

Here’s my thought on it. If you can recognize the lesson in something that’s constantly showing up in your life, the critical aspect of that lesson is not being learned, because it keeps showing up. The critical aspect of it is not something you already know – it’s got to be a concept or revelation that you haven’t tapped into yet. So switch it up. Go into this cycle (lesson) with complete submission, humility, and integrity and watch the exposure of new truths arise.

The point is to learn, not relearn. Before we knew that 2+2=4… we had no idea… then we found out that 1+1+1+1 = 4 and 5-1=4… and so forth. Stay open to new ideas.

TGIF, can you believe it’s Friday already? I’m glad for it, but whew “funny how times flies…”

MUAH have a GREAT Weekend. We sunny over here in ATL!

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Clarity is Protection

Let’s peggy-back on yesterday’s blog, shall we? :0) So yesterday we remembered to keep in mind the things that make us tick, ensuring we know these things, we then remain connected to the Living Vine. Let’s look a little more deeply into those around us. I will tread softly here, but sometimes things need to be clear, right? Ok here we go :0).

The same amount of power and energy that each of us have, others have too. What I mean by that is, we must be careful of not only our intentions, but the intentions of those around us…because they too have the capability to actualize their thoughts. Let’s go further. Let’s say you want to loose weight, so in the midst of your excitement you tell a few people. Perhaps one of these persons doesn’t like themselves, which reflects on the “real” way they feel about you (subconsciously of course)… and it seems like every time you’re around them you gain weight! (i.e. their negative attitude towards your progress, their sly comments, their overall distaste for the positive direction you’re moving in. and etc.) This cheapens the whole idea of, “I’m doing this for me” concept.

Now we’re not mind-readers so how can we know? Good question, Megan. The only thing that I can think of is being clear. Seek clarity from God and stick with it! Don’t sway back and forth based on what someone else thinks is good for you…which is based on what they’re not even doing for their own Spiritual growth. (Come on Somebody!)
Be careful what you share and with whom, sometimes the statement, “I can show you better then I can tell you.” is the best protection against someone else’s intentions.

Let’s move forward in what we know if best for us… that will really be best for us ALL.

It’s Thursday over here… What day is it over there? Cause I’m celebrating TGIF tomorrow, regardless. :0) MUAH

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Self-preservation vs. Selfishness

Self-preservation is not selfishness. I realized the other day that there are certain routines and rituals that I do daily and when these things aren’t done, I’m just not right. I’m simply off kilter when I don’t fulfill what has become obligation(s) to my Spirit and for my Spirit. For example, I must pray and meditate every morning BEFORE I begin my day, or in my mind (and we know that perspective is your reality), my day is not right. I honestly feel like I’ve missed out on a revelation, or a good word from God when I don’t do this.

Here’s the key to today’s “note”… Everyone close to you (i.e. family, close friends, etc.) need to know how much you respect yourself and what makes you tick or what makes your soul complete… then they will as well. Some may say, “I think it’s awfully selfish that you need an hour away from me, (or the babies whatever) for yourself.” I’m here to tell you, IT IS NOT. Whatever it is that you do, whether it’s a long bath, a long walk, or mani-pedi(s), whatever it is, that is your thing and it grounds your focus. It has been proven that the human body/mind needs no less then 15 minutes a day of “shut down”, of calm, or dare I say, PEACE to properly function. It is not selfish to demand what helps you help everyone else – the trick is you have to know what that is, first – then you can express it properly to others.

Life is a journey yes, but it does not have to be a torturous hike through constant rough terrain. Let’s connect to that Living Vine, daily.

Have an AWESOME Wednesday! MUAH, Megan

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Better not Bitter

Have you ever heard someone say, “Oh she’s just bitter.”? Most likely we’ve all heard it somewhere or have said it ourselves. Bitter is usually referred to as someone who is now jealous of someone else’s current situation OR a person who is very deeply affected by something that happened to them (or their involvement therein). Usually when someone is bitter, they feel like they “lost-out” or got the short end of the stick in the deal. Right? A bitter person is not the easiest person to be around and usually stays on the pity-pot.

But glory for the Better! Better comes in when we realize that because of what we went through… because of… we are a better vessel, a better influence, and a better witness of change. When we can see the human revolution evolving by way of these events that may not always be the “ideal” in our minds, we then obtain the better. Being overly confident, being more attractive then the new girlfriend or husband is not the better… being able to say, “I’m better not bitter” is not the better. The better is the lesson; and the lesson is the internal growth that is applied to all things YOU. (I’m talking so good today!;0)

So we’re better because we know the greater purpose is our destiny in which we are already predestined to reach.

I’m going to read this one again tomorrow! LOL

Hey happy Tuesday, welcome back to work some of you!


Monday, February 21, 2011

Stare It Down

Fear is a beast! OMG, what would the world be like without it? As a noun fear means, “a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.”

When we think of fear most of us think of something scary, (i.e. a movie, murders, accidents, etc…) But the fear I’m talking about is this part of the definition, “whether the threat is real or imagined.” We’ve talked about anxiety and how the mind (if not controlled) can trick you… the fear I’m talking about today are those crippling voices in our heads that say, “I can’t”.

It is no secret that my life has taken a turn BY a directional change that I would have never assumed (Youtube)… I say by a turn, because motivating and speaking to people about health was always in the plans. So in the midst of this great and marvelous change (change because it’s going faster then I ever thought it would), fear creeps up every now-and-again speaking words of doubt and separation, causing nervousness, restlessness, and sometimes just being uncomfortable. What I have found out about this beast is that I’m so much stronger then I once thought. Dr. Shelia says this in her motivational cd, “When we’re about to step into our greatness, fear shows up… but we must face our fears and live from the potential within.” (paraphrase)

Therefore I say this to myself and all of us who are on the verge of a victorious reunion with our destiny, “Stare that beast in the face and slay it with your strength.” God has not and will not put more on us then we can bear… but the flip side to that is He’s blowing our minds by proving to us that we can bear so much more then we thought, right?! WOW!

It’s a holiday… but it’s still Monday for most of us :0) Let’s make this week BIG!


Friday, February 18, 2011

Spring Backward

Seasons come and go, this we know, but we become complacent when it snows. We are not bears, we are beings created to create wonderment and yes, create our own joy. I’ve noticed that some of us like to wait until Spring to begin a new adventure or start on something we hope to accomplish. For example, you have a new year resolution to take better care of yourself. You start that first week with great ambition, then it gets too cold, or like me, you’re snowed in. So you stop, repeating to yourself, “I’ll get back on the wagon when I can comfortably go outside.” So two-three weeks pass and you still haven’t gotten back into your rhythm… then you say, “I’ll start back in Spring, it will be so pretty then.” Hogwash!
That company that you want to open, that project that you need to finish, that charity work, that conversation you need to have, those papers you need to file… can and should get done, when? Right today.

We make our happiness, we develop and explore our own joy. So when you don’t “feel” like doing something (that you should do), change your energy. Envision how sexy you want to look in your beach attire THIS YEAR, and work hard to get it… You will not get your summer body by summer if you start in the spring. Sorry

Similar to anxiety these feelings of lack come and then they always go! So don’t let those five or ten minutes take you completely off track… it takes a lot more energy to start all-over-again.

A little birdie told me today is FRIDAY! Is this true? I’m doing my Friday dance. MUAH Have an amazing weekend!

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Listen to them

As I was speaking this morning at the Freedom Middle School… I realized just how much our kids need us- not just to take care of them, but to show them (by example), talk with them, respect them, and LISTEN to them. They watch our every move just to see how much integrity we have. They want us to be honest about what’s going on in our lives (not that you tell your kids everything), and reflect how we really feel.

See children can sense when something isn’t right, regardless of how much we try to mask it – they know and they can feel it. So the more we try to hide it the less they trust us. This is why, I’ll say it again, it’s so important to take the time out to nurture ourselves, because when we’re not right, nothing is. We can be more attentive to the needs of others when our needs have been met – or at the very least, acknowledged.
We are the babies first Life Coaches :0). I believe the only way to guide them is not by always telling them what to do, but by showing them how to do it. I noticed there were quite a few kids there that were overweight. This is what’s going on in this country so I wasn’t surprised. But this is one of those examples I’m speaking of. We must show our kids a better way of living, by the choices they see us making.

I had a blast today!

Love ya’ll MUAH

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Work Through It

There is a process for just about everything in life. So let’s get used to the work. Even now I have realized that things (career, relationships, weight concerns, etc..) take A LOT of work, sweat, and yes tears (release and joy).

The hidden treasure is well worth the focus manifested into tangible reality, so stick to it. We’ve all heard that things worth anything, are worth the wait… and the work. The issue is we sometimes give up right before the victory. Will Smith and his wife Jada, were on Aunty O’s show last year and I recall Will saying something to this effect, “The victory comes right at the verge of failure.” He went on to say that he will never loose because, “No one will out work me.” Now that’s some focus.

May I propose something here (to myself as well)…. YOU WORK FOR YOU! Regardless of your current employment situation; your talents, gifts, purpose, destiny is your job. Work it full-time ! Give to your Spirit that which you would expect from your employees (as the boss). Commit to yourself; sign your own confidentiality agreement; have a mission statement, a demographics (people you want to be around), set goals, and strategize a way to accomplish them… even if it’s acquiring a better relationship with a loved one. Whatever it is as the famous Rupaul says, “You Betta Work!”

Stay focused on what’s important… You are IMPORTANT… That importance takes work. Right? Ok so let’s get to it. Those of us that need to exercise, you know what I’m about to say…. GO! No excuses.


Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Hope for Others

So how was yesterday? Mine was great. I spoke with the young lady and we have an appointment today. :0)

She mentioned some things to me in our conversation that not only hurt my heart, but made me a little angry. She lives in a home with her family and doesn’t seem to have any support. How much easier would things (life) be if we would support one another. The bottom line is that we’re in this together and the more we give the more we receive. Basic stuff right? Not so much.

For many more reasons then I’d like to go over, some of us can have a “crabs in the bucket” mentality, (misery loves company syndrome) - which does nothing but place negative energy in and throughout our own existence. Remembering to attract to ourselves that which we desire for ourselves, is incorporated with the unconditional hope for others. You can not only wish for self-good – I don’t think it works that way. LOL
If one member of the household is miserable… everyone is. This is why I’m a firm believer of Moms taking time out for themselves… when their not happy NO ONE IS! People hear me.

Today let’s support someone’s efforts to better themselves. Better yet let’s help someone that’s not even asking.

It’s been a busy day already…ALREADY! :0) and I’m grateful. Happy Tuesday Folks, MUAH

Monday, February 14, 2011


Ok so we’ve arrived at a beautiful day that can to some be dreadful. This day some say is yet another political holiday for the masses to make money off of us, while this may be true, the same can be said about Christmas, right? So we have to remember the reason for the season. What’s the reason? LOVE. Simple and Sweet. “Love, Sweet Love”… as Anita Baker would say.

I like to think of today as more then just romantic love, one to another, but a universal love for all. I decided yesterday, while in church that I was going to spend some time today (either on the phone or in person) with someone that may not have anyone to speak to or be with. And behold someone walked down the aisle of the church yesterday, who I hope I can help. (she has extreme weight concerns)… I’m looking forward to being her valentines today.

It’s important that every now and again we view Love in it’s purest form, remembering that God is just that… Love. As those created in that same image, perhaps we can begin a movement of Love on Feb.14th, that travels throughout the remainder of the year to every heart and soul that needs a true reflection of God in US!

I hope that YOU are enjoying this magnificent day… the wonderful words, comments, prayers, and support that I’ve received from you all has been the BEST Valentines Present EVER! Thank YOU! MUAH, Megan McGlover

Happy Monday… :0)

Friday, February 11, 2011

Knowing vs. Believing

The story is longer then the importance of the point… so I’ll get right to it. Someone once told me, “The difference between you and I is you believe and I know.” As I sat there saying to myself, “You don’t know me!”… my Spirit began to reveal the prophetic-ness of that statement. The conversation was a combination of many different topics that spread over a four hour period - from why we do what we do, to where we’re going based on where we’ve been. But this stuck in my head and is something I’ve shared with others (my friends)… like you.

We have been taught to believe in things; i.e. hope, our dreams, our religion, our relationships, ourselves… and of course, God. Belief is a strong feeling based on past revelations examined and taught through the interpretation of lessons. (ooooweeeee that was deep). It is the underpinning of just about everything that we do, have done, and will do – this belief however leaves room for happenstance. However when we know something, no space is left, the cup is full and running over. When you know your spouse, those whom you have a relationship with, when you know what is (not what you believe), there is an unbelievable condition of tangible trust and faith (God’s love for us). This condition is never replaced… it comes with every thought and experience. For example believing in God and knowing in God are two different things. Believing in yourself and knowing yourself are two different things based on action. A belief can be changed, a knowing can only be proven.

So, knowing that I am that I am, and believing that I will soon become that through (whatever it takes to become that I am that I am etc…) … are the difference between, action (I will) and thought (I’ll try).

When we know God and know that all things work for the good, there is no doubt or hope that things will work out… because we KNOW God (not His thoughts or plans necessarily)… but we KNOW that we KNOW – that’s the best way I can say it. Same goes for knowing ourselves, not just believing in ourselves. See what I mean?

Perhaps I should write a little book on this. This is deep stuff… well I think. :0) Let me know what you think.


Thursday, February 10, 2011

Welcome in the Positive

It’s one thing to be cautious, it is yet another to be down-right pessimistic. I can say that because I once suffered from that same self-inflicted worrisomeness. Surely we should not jump feet first into every situation that we approach or are approached with, but we should however have an underlined sense of successful comfort; this confidence that ALL things work for the good, and that ALL things will be added unto us… Right?

Wouldn’t that thought pattern make this journey we call life much easier? Try it. Think back to something that happened just yesterday… before it happened what was your thought? What about during and then after? Did you have that split second of extreme doubt that almost made you nervous? Then after whatever happened we found it to be a very small thing or no-thing at all. I like to think of these moments as quick spurts of anxiety… that we can control. Many books teach this… “what you’ve learned can be unlearned.” Having fearful and negative thoughts have been a condition of ours for just about our whole adult life, but we can and WILL change it.

I’ve found that the joy of positive thinking is simply more fun and a lot less stressful. Tomorrow remind me to write about the difference between KNOWING and Believing… WHEW powerful stuff.

So our challenge… I don’t like that, our VICTORY is to change our initial ideas (PRE) of things… ALL things. Welcome in your positive, not the negative. CALL it to You.

LUL, LUS! MUAH, Megan Oh wait a minute is today Thursday… See I told you guys, and you thought it was soooo awful Monday morning. :0)

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Union With

This has been the topic of conversation several times this week… A personal relationship with God. Is it a coincidence? I think not. We have approached a time in this world where our very souls are thirsty for the Living Vine. Our Spirits are looking to return to their truest destiny (Ephesians), and our minds, our minds are seeking for the simplest clarity.

We see the world and how much Love is missing. We recognize its need for a better way, a better solution, peace… but what about us? Do we recognize that same need within? AND do we believe we will ever achieve it? Being raised under very strict beliefs of fear, I didn’t develop my understanding of the Loving God until a few years ago. I was so afraid of this Being that I ran away rather then toward… that distance caused me much grief and aloofness. Through much studying (of what may be considered “off-color”) literature I realized Who & What we are in union with the living God. Yes I said in UNION WITH.

I said this before and I feel it need re-mention; “When we realize we’re related to God…” all else becomes, all else. Let that roam through your mind today, it might may cause you to see things differently.

I love the love within us. It’s Wednesday, so talk to God because He really does care…about YOU! Hump Day….. GO!!!! MUAH

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Stop the Cycles

A wonderful supporter and friend of mine said this on his FB post, (I'm summarizing), "Make today the first day to end the cycles... come into a new being." POWERFUL! Let today be the day that you say, "no more" to generational curses (if you believe in curses), "no more" to ongoing internal turmoil, "no more" to mistreating yourself because you're used to the way it feels... "NO MORE" to the relentless selfishness and greed that ruled in our lives and the lives of those closest to us!

Today we begin anew. Those horrible thought patterns, those rediculous notions, self amputations must stop TODAY! You are in control of the rest of your life, as soon as you accept that responsibility. I realized a while back that I was afraid of change. I wanted it desperately, but was so unsure of what that change would be and how it would feel that I constantly sabotaged my own growth. Well finally pain's consistency became overwhelming and I jumped head-first into the unknown space of change. While I have no regrets, NO REGRETS, I would be lieing if I said it wasn't challenging and downright hard at times. BUT it is extremely PEACEFUL! Without change there is no progress... so let's move forward, shall we?

It's mid-day, so most of us have already been faced with ARGH (LOL)... so take a breath and breathe - it's almost over. MUAH!

Monday, February 7, 2011

Don't Ignore It

We're simply too busy to worry about every little thing that takes place in our lives. We can not stress over a comment, remark, or negative gesture thrown our way. Who has time to divulge their childhood for present life reflection? Who has the time to inquire about themselves?

The fact of the matter is whether we are consciously aware of it or not, we are affected by every little thing. Our childhood experiences do weigh heavily on our current relationships and interactions... and we do hold on to things. As humans we have a unique memory and those memories become thoughts and those thoughts are mirrored in our lives. These thoughts are triggered by similarities and feelings from our past (that haven't been worked out). So while we think we're doing the right things by ignoring an issue, we really just making a bigger problem later. You see what I mean?

When you deal with something head-on, right away, you keep that paper cut from turning into an infectious (never healing) wound. Don't toss your emotions to the side, acknowledge them and treat them so that they don't fester. Take that time to filter through your childhood and see how you've been affected, so that you can be a better (adult) you. There's no better time then the present.

Happy Monday People! MUAH
It's going to be a GREAT week.

Friday, February 4, 2011

This will be simple and sweet…

Love on yourself like you just found the person of your dreams and they are wining and dining you like the royalty you are. Imagine you have come and swept yourself off your feet, saved you from a day of issues, and caressed your very woes with a gentle hand of confidence. Hug yourself passionately as if reuniting in the airport from a long absence. Massage you thoughts, like a gentle whisper of kindness from your truest love during a rough day’s work. Congratulate yourself for making it through yet another long week, by expressing aloud how proud you are of you…

Love on yourself, experience Love at its finest hour, its most precious interpretation.

Some of us have had quite a few ups and downs (emotionally) this week… now it’s time to relax, for just a moment and recognize that jewel deep in the midst of our very existence.

It is in fact Friday and tomorrow is the weekend! So get up, stretch it out and SHOUT! :0)
MUAH Oh and go… Steelers or wait Packers… Oh that’s it go Super Bowl COMMERCIALS! LOL

Thursday, February 3, 2011

IT’s Purpose

In my opinion to accept something is to acknowledge IT and appreciate IT for what it is. It doesn’t mean you “agree” with it, but you can see IT’s reason, grasp the experience and arrive at a greater self from IT’s existence.

IT can be anything; a person (friend or foe, lover, spouse), a job, drama, personal issues (weight, attitude, mindset)… the list goes on. These ITS are in our lives for reasons. But if we’re constantly fighting against IT because we don’t agree, don’t want to be rational, don’t feel the need to stop and listen… we will never find out IT’s purpose in our lives – therefore never at peace.

Ok let me say it this way. For example you have a friend who is drama-filled 99% of the time. She has 99 problems and common sense is not one of them. BUT you remain her friend. There is a reason (universal reason) for this. It could be a number of things; 1. You are developing patience. 2. There is a level of drama in your life that she reflects. 3. There is a lesson in it for her (from you). 4. God is punishing you. LOLOLOL (seriously I don’t believe in this at all!). Instead of being overwhelmed by the current situations we’re in, we should accept them in the arms of energetic love which transforms the whole reception process. (let’s read that again… Oh I liked that :0) Once we let go of our defensive mechanisms, we can then see things multi-dimensionally (I think I just made that word up, but you get me, right?) ALL of this however does not mean that we don’t make changes to better our lives! But how can we make change without knowing what or why we’re changing in the first place? DEEP!

I think this is one of the definitions of God looks at the heart. He sees things from every possible angle – like the lesson before the trail.

Oh it feels good this morning…. Is it because it’s Thursday!?! Come on now!

Good Morning and “Oh Happy Day” MUAH!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Tithe Yourself

Someone told me this awhile ago and it always stuck with me… “Pay yourself a tithe”. When I first began personal trainer (getting paid for it, that is), a friend on mine that I really looked up to said, “Girl, give yourself 20% of everything you make.” My first thought was “It’s all mine anyhow.” But then it sunk in. Once it did, I found myself with $200 and $300 dollars in a jar not realizing it was accumulating so much. I must honestly say, I’ve strayed away from this wonderful concept… BUT I’m getting back to it. :0)

So what does this have to do with it being a cold and wet Wednesday? Glad you asked. Two things: 1. I feel it very important to HONOR ourselves. It seems to me that we are not praising ourselves, yes I said Praising… ourselves enough. Do we really realize who we are? I think not. We are literally walking miracles (think about that)… there will never be and has never been another YOU. 2. This “tithe money” is only for you! Not the kids, the bills, the whatever (yes even in this recession). This money is for an hour massage, a mani-pedi, a session with your therapist, an acupuncture session… the things that we all need to keep us aligned with our purpose.

This tithe is to help the temple of God function at its highest level. Doesn’t that sound familiar?

Start today, even if it’s just $1. Set aside for your praise and worship. I know I’m stretching the perimeters of our minds… but just go with me here.

MUAH! It's HUMP DAY … let’s push through! :0)

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Don’t Hide

This came to me in the middle of the night and I’m so happy I remembered it this morning. YEPPEE!

Do you notice that when we feel bad about ourselves we begin to withdraw? When we see ourselves as “less then” to a degree, we retreat into our caves. When we have a hint of depression, we run further into that dark place… Well STOP IT!

I’ve noticed that through the ages of time, disappointment has gone from an opportunity to make things better, to a complete death sentence. What do I mean? For example, if someone is overweight they are not included, they are taught to feel less then, and society makes sure that they are so discouraged that trying to loose weight is worse then staying overweight… Therefore these persons continue to isolate themselves further and further away.

Unfortunately we can not change our society overnight, but we CAN and WILL change our minds individually. If you have these thoughts about yourself change them. If you wear braces, are overweight, have acne, wear glasses, are single at age 40… whatever it is that makes you an INDIVDUAL…. Embrace it. Embrace YOU! Once you begin to love yourself, you can see who you really are and make changes as YOU SEE FIT.

Just my thoughts… MUAH, Be careful out there it’s getting icky!